Who doesn't like good service? If you take your wife out to a nice restaurant, you
expect to have good service or at least service that doesn't make you stop to
think, “Hey, where is my food” or “Why did I get fish when I ordered chicken?” You
know what I’m talking about. Most of us have been on the receiving end of poor
service at one time or another. However, we desire and expect good service from
those in the “service” industry.
Stop
and think for a minute. Have you ever considered yourself in the service
industry? If you are married, you have
willingly placed yourself into the service industry whether you were aware of
it or not. Now, many of us fail to see that we are called to serve our spouse,
which often becomes a common ground for arguments, frustration, and
disappointment. Nonetheless, as a husband or wife you are called to humbly serve
your spouse. We have a great example of what this type of service is supposed
to look like.
In
Mark 10:35-45, a situation arises where James and John are promoting themselves
wanting to sit at Jesus’ side when He sits on His throne in glory. Out of all
twelve disciples, they were saying to Jesus, “We want to be the ones who receive
special honor and recognition amongst all others.” There seemed to be a
self-seeking interest taking place that failed to take into consideration the
others in their midst. Understanding what was going on, Jesus pointed out to
them a reality that often takes place with this type of attitude. There are
some who have positions of authority and receive special honor and recognition
but instead of serving others, they choose to lord it over them. However, this
neglect of position should never happen. So Jesus tells the disciples that if
they really want to be great and do something worthwhile, they should enter
into the “service” industry. He called them to humbly serve God and one another.
Is this not what Jesus showed them in His own life as well? He tells them that “He
came not to be served but to serve and even give His life up as a ransom for others,”
(Mark 10:45). He willingly entered the “service” industry.
So, if
we are married, we are in a perfect position to practice this act of humble
service. However, we often seek only to be served and are disappointed if that
service doesn't reach our standard. Instead of looking out for our own
interest, let’s start looking out for the interest of our spouse and realize we
are called into the “service” industry. Look for ways you can serve and thereby
empower your spouse to be all that God is calling him/her to be.